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silentpunk: What Happened to All the Nice Guys?

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What happened to all the nice guys?

The answer is simple: you did.

See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He’d tag along…

Self pity/low self esteem vs CONFIDENCE! If you have feelings for this girl, say it, tell her, face rejection, fuck, you will screw yourself up and be afraid to do anything if you continue trying to get a girl like this!

If you’re not honest with her now, why would she like you as a partner? I’ve been that “nice guy” many times, it’s a fail because you’ll never understand how to be yourself. BE HONEST!

Aaah, the “Nice Guy”().

A Nice Guy, confusingly, is not a nice guy. He is someone who pretends to be your friend to get in your pants and then accuses you of ‘using him’ when you didn’t ‘pay’ him for his friendship/emotional ‘services’ by having sex with him. In his own words: “You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy.”

Any man* who buys into this bullshit is not to be trusted, and is a disgusting misogynist who apparently thinks that the only reason to hang around women is the possibility of sex. The Nice Guy can eat my shit.

Here is a good explainer of that actual craiglist post, and why it is FUBAR.

*in this case I’m talking about straight (typically cis-)men; obviously not all men are heterosexual

I think the cause of the ‘Nice Guy’ phenomenon is a culture that peddles an incredibly narrow notion of young male sexuality. Teenage boys are told that there is nothing about them that anybody could ever find sexually attractive, and come to the conclusion that the only way they are ever going to experience any intimacy is by tricking girls with so-called ‘niceness’.

Given the way our culture constructs gender roles, I think its natural that many young men lacking in sexual confidence, (i.e. the large majority of young men), are going to go down this route. However, there’s a massive difference between teenagers who fall into this trap and men in their mid-20s onward who have made their nice-guy-ism into a bitter, misogynist ideology.

(Source: craigslist.org)

  1. turnsoutalliwantisequality reblogged this from hautdogg
  2. iamheavensentdontyoudareforget reblogged this from hotdadtrevorlinden and added:
    story of my life, men can be such arseholes.
  3. lastgoodemperor reblogged this from cerulean-tea and added:
    If you have to explain that you’re a nice guy, then you’re not, because a real “nice guy” is probably too modest to...
  4. hotdadtrevorlinden reblogged this from sevenofcups and added:
    I agree with all the commentary.
  5. cerulean-tea reblogged this from sevenofcups and added:
    Brilliant commentary.
  6. sevenofcups reblogged this from silentpunk
  7. clmbls reblogged this from un-canadien-errant and added:
    So, because a girl treated this guy as a friend and nothing more, while he didn’t have the guts to make his move, he...
  8. un-canadien-errant reblogged this from leucocrystal
  9. gqbrielle reblogged this from face-down-asgard-up and added:
    i attempted to date a guy who identified very hard with OP (i believe that particular collection of words started life...
  10. daemonology reblogged this from jimmypage and added:
    artilleur:zdaz: THIS^
  11. terrasigillata reblogged this from arulpragasams and added:
    I like Nice Guys. I really do. I know many Nice Guys. You know what, though? It’s not enough to just be Nice. Sometimes...
  12. saxifraga-x-urbium reblogged this from cannibaliza and added:
    Oh, I haven’t missed the entitled whining of Nice Guys TM. And just for balance, I fucking hate Nice Girls TM too.
  13. skittles-and-dubra reblogged this from face-down-asgard-up and added:
    Following a woman around “like a puppy dog” is called being creepy. Being her friend and confidante while having...
  14. cannibaliza reblogged this from ohmostdefiantly and added:
    HELLO DESCRIPTION OF THE EMOTARD TO A T I don’t miss that cunt at all.
  15. blue-belle reblogged this from face-down-asgard-up and added:
    That savors strongly of bitterness, Mr. Nice Guy.
  16. ohmostdefiantly reblogged this from confidential and added:
    Right? “nice guys” make me want to punch a wall.
  17. confidential reblogged this from ohmostdefiantly and added:
    What in the actual fuck did I just read? That is some serious bullshit right there.
  18. kfrs reblogged this from arulpragasams and added:
    "Nice Guys" are just as douchey and entitled as "Bad Boys" are. If I choose to fuck a stereotype, the one I choose to...
  19. arulpragasams reblogged this from face-down-asgard-up and added:
    Reblogging for commentary. Nice Guys are never going to fucking get it.
  20. amberli reblogged this from thekitchendebate
  21. tumblaighre reblogged this from boomvagynamite and added:
    I think the cause of the ‘Nice Guy’ phenomenon is a culture that peddles an incredibly narrow notion of young male...
  22. katelinbrooke reblogged this from jimmypage and added:
    ^
  23. boomvagynamite reblogged this from forrealblog and added:
    Aaah, the “Nice Guy”(™). A Nice Guy, confusingly, is not a nice guy. He is someone who pretends to be your friend to get...
  24. forrealblog reblogged this from silentpunk and added:
    Self pity/low self esteem vs CONFIDENCE! If you have feelings for this girl, say it, tell her, face rejection, fuck, you...
  25. ya-la-vida-continua reblogged this from silentpunk and added:
    Oh gawd. Nice Guys(TM)… And then when they see denouncements of their stupidity like this, they just feel more...